Family Members Never Visit or Call

This is one of those concepts which comes through and it feels so simple, but when I go to write it down, it doesn't seem so simple.  Here it goes.

Family members stop visiting parents and attending 
family events to avoid suffering. 
Emails and texts can be maintained, but phone calls and physical visits cause suffering.  
I will list some examples, but you probably already have formulated your own examples.

Here are some reasons not to visit or make a voice call.

The person who has withdrawn suffers when attempting to:

Have a conversation with one or more others in family
Answer typical questions asked by family with acceptable answer
Accept current situation of a particular loved one

OR:

Is physically or psychically repulsed by one or more others in family
Feels the rest of the family does not trust or approve of them
Loses energy and well being when in presence of one or more others in family
Feels trapped or restrained for some reason
Feels shame
Does not want to play role of what family has chosen for them

Accept and appreciate those who are calling and visiting, and allow those who aren't to protect themselves from whatever suffering they perceive may happen if they visit or call.

-Eve Featherstone